I don’t hold myself out as a complete parenting expert. But I’ve worked with hundreds of parents, and mostly moms. I generally defer to their experienced wisdom. I’m pretty sure that these challenging talks fall into similar categories. Tailoring a developmentally appropriate response to these questions requires us to know where the kids are in their understanding first. Moms usually know their kids best, so I don’t give cookie-cutter answers. The general rule of thumb is not to give more information than they ask for because they ask for what they can handle, and they’ll ask follow up questions if they want to know more.
I used to work for a nonprofit that helped parents and teachers talk to kids about race and racism. So many folks get derailed by thoughts that they won't do it "right" so they avoid the topic altogether. Good on you guys for diving in. FWIW, my kids and I watched Selma to learn about non violence and turning the other cheek. Such a great film.
I don’t hold myself out as a complete parenting expert. But I’ve worked with hundreds of parents, and mostly moms. I generally defer to their experienced wisdom. I’m pretty sure that these challenging talks fall into similar categories. Tailoring a developmentally appropriate response to these questions requires us to know where the kids are in their understanding first. Moms usually know their kids best, so I don’t give cookie-cutter answers. The general rule of thumb is not to give more information than they ask for because they ask for what they can handle, and they’ll ask follow up questions if they want to know more.
Such a great post, Jen. Thank you. xxx
Such a great story, thanks for sharing. And I love that you all recorded a podcast together 🩷 I loved the dune movie so I may have to listen in.
I used to work for a nonprofit that helped parents and teachers talk to kids about race and racism. So many folks get derailed by thoughts that they won't do it "right" so they avoid the topic altogether. Good on you guys for diving in. FWIW, my kids and I watched Selma to learn about non violence and turning the other cheek. Such a great film.
So glad you and Bryan believe in having these conversations with each other and with your kids. It's critical -- skills we all need.