Your post is the first time I have been tempted to try the Enneagram thing... not because I think it's a hard science but because other concepts like Myers Briggs have helped me understand more about how I work and what I need to be successful, etc. [I am so INTJ that once at a workshop you had to stand somewhere in the room to demonstrate where you were on the spectrum and I walked OUT of the room... lol]
The Enneagram is definitely EXTRA froo froo, but I have appreciated some of its perspectives. I don't know if all the content around it talks about this, but the book I read called Road Back to You presented each type with descriptions for when you're in a healthy state and when you're in an unhealthy state - a both sides of the coin sort of thing. It was eye opening that both descriptions for myself resonated, based on good and bad seasons of my mental health. AND it helped me see some of my difficult interactions with Bryan in a whole new light and with more compassion for where he might be at during certain times.
You are such a gifted writer and storyteller. I’m now contemplating why I haven’t started on my one big goal that I set out to accomplish every year for the past 10 years (including vision boarding around it every year), yet have never started it. I used to be a runner. I love running. I used to run and train for half marathons every year. I want to start back up. I have wanted to start back up since 2012! That’s 10 years of having this goal and not starting it. I think in my case it’s more about the power of habits and needing to create a new habit which takes time. I’m now thinking about my first piano recital and had a very similar experience. You are not alone. And I’m excited for more of your writings. Thank you for sharing. You have a gift.
My latest theory on “stuckness” is that if you’re inclined to rapid-fire problem solving, you’re also inclined to quick-assumptioning ™️ around the end results of basically everything.
My own stuckness sits squarely with the fact that I have a vault in my brain of every interview of every successful writer or business person. And while they would say “Yes, I worked very hard to get here,” they ALL ALSO SAY IT WAS A STROKE OF LUCK THAT LIFTED THEIR EFFORTS.
And my brain has had NO interest in luck. So I actively avoid starting things that I think I’m inevitably reliant on luck to see succeed.
Here’s the kicker, though. Just recently my brain did a switcheroo on me. And it asked me, “Amanda, what if luck needs a place to land?”
So I decided that I’ve been dumb and scared OR just really really good at forecasting the inevitable doom of everything. I was probably also smart but too much smartness can sometimes make a person dumb.
I’m not saying you’re dumb. I’m just saying if you’re really smart, it’s possible that’s why you get stuck. ✌🏼
Was looking through old posts of mine and saw this comment from you re luck needing a place to land. The essay you wrote on this was so meaningful to me, and here you are working it out in my comment section. What a fun discovery/memory to run into!
Your post is the first time I have been tempted to try the Enneagram thing... not because I think it's a hard science but because other concepts like Myers Briggs have helped me understand more about how I work and what I need to be successful, etc. [I am so INTJ that once at a workshop you had to stand somewhere in the room to demonstrate where you were on the spectrum and I walked OUT of the room... lol]
The Enneagram is definitely EXTRA froo froo, but I have appreciated some of its perspectives. I don't know if all the content around it talks about this, but the book I read called Road Back to You presented each type with descriptions for when you're in a healthy state and when you're in an unhealthy state - a both sides of the coin sort of thing. It was eye opening that both descriptions for myself resonated, based on good and bad seasons of my mental health. AND it helped me see some of my difficult interactions with Bryan in a whole new light and with more compassion for where he might be at during certain times.
oooh I just got that book! Thanks for the rec.
You are such a gifted writer and storyteller. I’m now contemplating why I haven’t started on my one big goal that I set out to accomplish every year for the past 10 years (including vision boarding around it every year), yet have never started it. I used to be a runner. I love running. I used to run and train for half marathons every year. I want to start back up. I have wanted to start back up since 2012! That’s 10 years of having this goal and not starting it. I think in my case it’s more about the power of habits and needing to create a new habit which takes time. I’m now thinking about my first piano recital and had a very similar experience. You are not alone. And I’m excited for more of your writings. Thank you for sharing. You have a gift.
Thank you, Silke! Your encouragement is lovely!
Me too! I plan and push tasks through at work all day long, but never on my wants. I get stuck!
My latest theory on “stuckness” is that if you’re inclined to rapid-fire problem solving, you’re also inclined to quick-assumptioning ™️ around the end results of basically everything.
My own stuckness sits squarely with the fact that I have a vault in my brain of every interview of every successful writer or business person. And while they would say “Yes, I worked very hard to get here,” they ALL ALSO SAY IT WAS A STROKE OF LUCK THAT LIFTED THEIR EFFORTS.
And my brain has had NO interest in luck. So I actively avoid starting things that I think I’m inevitably reliant on luck to see succeed.
Here’s the kicker, though. Just recently my brain did a switcheroo on me. And it asked me, “Amanda, what if luck needs a place to land?”
So I decided that I’ve been dumb and scared OR just really really good at forecasting the inevitable doom of everything. I was probably also smart but too much smartness can sometimes make a person dumb.
I’m not saying you’re dumb. I’m just saying if you’re really smart, it’s possible that’s why you get stuck. ✌🏼
Was looking through old posts of mine and saw this comment from you re luck needing a place to land. The essay you wrote on this was so meaningful to me, and here you are working it out in my comment section. What a fun discovery/memory to run into!